Elsie's Birthday

Hi Everyone,
Today is my mother in law Elsie's first birthday since she passed away. I decided to share this poem I wrote about my mom on her first birthday, because I feel the same way about Elsie, as I did my Mom. Thanks for reading it, and say a pray for both Josephine and Elsie that they are resting in peace. Thank you for visiting my blog, and all your comments,
Take Care,
Janet :)
Today is your first birthday since you passed away. I feel sad that together we cannot be, so I decided to speak these words, because I know you’ll hear me. On this birthday different gifts you did receive. Peace and comfort, for long, you were in need. My gift to you, no longer Material, but spiritual. In my heart I will carry on your love for family and life. I will share it
with everyone day and night. Thank you for all the gifts you gave me throughout my life. Many of those gifts were lessons on how to survive. Often those lessons did not seem fair. In the end though they made me strong and gave me courage to carry on, after the tears. That courage
grew into appreciation, and gratitude. Most of all that in my life I was blessed with you.
Love you always and forever
Janet

Dolly

Hi Everyone,
I hope you are all doing well, I am doing good. I recently posted that the hurricane names have both of my mothers names on the list. I thought I would write about it again tonight for those who have not seen the last post. Her nickname was Dolly and her name was Josephine. I really find it funny that both are on the list this year. I named my blog after her nickname. I am glad to hear that name Dolly on the news, you never hear that anywhere. It was popular back in her day. Maybe now it will become popular because it was on the list and we will hear about all these girls named Dolly. Anyway time will tell. I hope you all have a good night, I wanted to share this inspirational saying with everyone.
Talk to you soon,
Janet :)

To 'let go' does not mean to stop caring;
it means I can't do it for someone else.
To 'let go' is not to cut myself off;
it is the realisation that I must not control another.
To 'let go' is not to fix; but to be supportive.
To 'let go' is not to be in the middle arranging all the outcomes;
but to allow others to effect their destinies.
To 'let go' is not to be protective; it is to permit another to face reality.
To 'let go' is not to regret the past; but to grow and live for the future.
To 'let go' is to fear less and love more.

Tree Of Life

Hi Everyone,
I hope you are all doing well. I am doing good. Today we had a yard sale at my in laws house. Over the years Elsie and Larry have accumulated alot of possessions, being in the eighties. So to clear out some space we decided to have the yard sale. I have kept some sentimental possessions. It was kinda hard watching her things just going away. What we didn't sell we will donate to charity, I think she would have liked that. It is nice to keep things of them around you, to remind you that they live on in some way. I also have a bag of my mothers belongings from the nursing home that I have not put away. I just feel if I put the things in the bag away I will have nothing left and I am not ready for that. So who knows how long that bag will sit in my closet! I am sure I sound silly, but it is what it is. I also have sentimental possessions of hers as well. I ended the day with a great New England meal, lobster and corn on the cob. Looking forward to Saturday Night tv, always good for some laughs, mad tv, Saturday night live are my favorites. I would like to mention this man's blog, SoulMerlin. He is a fabulous writer and performer from England and I get great support from him. He has posted on his blog, a segment about the tree of life. It includes beautiful pictures and the way he writes you feel the experience with him. He also writes about the Stonehenge summer solstice. I encourage you all to visit, here is the link. http://soulmerlin.wordpress.com/.
Well that's it for today, thanks for visiting my blog.
Take Care,
Janet :)

Life's Choices

Hi Everyone,
I hope you are all doing well. I am doing good. I worked today and though I was writing about how much I like what I do, and I do. It was funny today at work for the first time I was back at my work and I felt like an outsider looking in. I had worked their for two years before I left because of the choices I made. I could not help but feel a little sad about what I have missed out on while caring for my mothers. They were all sitting around laughing together , it just seemed like I was not included in the laughs. Talking about going out to eat together etc. I realized today that you just can't go back. New friendships are formed and friendships change because life and circumstances get in the way. I am not trying to sound sorry for myself. I just needed to share that with you all. It helps me to write about it. Put things in perspective for myself. I still enjoy being there and look forward to working there as much as I can. I found this poem which I really felt help me to understand how I felt today, and what I need to help move forward. I wanted to share it with you all. Thanks for visiting my blog,
Take Care,
Janet :)
As you travel through life.
As you travel through life there are always those times when decisions just have to be made when the choices are hard, and solutions seem scarce and the rain seems to soak your parade! There are some situations where all you can do is to simply let go and move on gather courage together and choose a direction that carries you toward a new dawn. So pack up your troubles and take a step forward the process of change can be tough but think about all the excitement ahead if you can be stalwart enough! There could be adventures you never imagined just waiting around the next bend and wishes and dreams just about to come true in ways you can't yet comprehend! Perhaps you'll find friendships that spring from new interests as you challenge your status quo and learn there are so many options in life, and so many ways you can grow!
Perhaps you'll go places you never expected and see things that you've never seen or travel to fabulous, faraway worlds and wonderful spots in between! Perhaps you'll find warmth and affection and caring, a "somebody special" who's there to help you stay centered and listen with interest to stories and feelings you share. Perhaps you'll find comfort in knowing your friends are supportive of all that you do and believe that whatever decisions you make, they'll be the right choices for you! So keep putting one foot in front of the other and taking your life day by day.
There's a brighter tomorrow that's just down the road. Don't look back, you're not going that way!

Disabled?

Hi Everyone,
I hope you are all doing well. I am doing good. I got to spend time with my granddaughter yesterday which is alot of fun. I am working this week for someone on vacation. I really enjoy my work I realized today. I feel the best gift I got from my mother was compassion towards the "disabled" as society labels them. All you have to do is treat them as you would anyone else. It is that simple. There may be difficult days, but then they need you the most. I heard a saying once that I really liked. Sometimes the less broken have to help the more broken. In other words we all have a so called disability if you think about it. We cannot as human beings have the ability to be perfect in every aspect of our lives. So it's as if we all are disabled, just some more than others. I hope you understand that, it just came to me as I was writing. I found this poem I wanted to share with you all. Thanks for visiting my blog,
Take Care,
Janet :)
A Cleansing Blessing
I cleanse myself of all selfishness, resentment, critical feelings for my fellow beings, self-condemnation, and misinterpretation of my life experiences.
I bathe myself in generosity, appreciation, praise and gratitude for my fellow beings,self-acceptance, and enlightened understanding of my life experiences.
Author Unknown

Great Dream

Hi Everyone,
I hope you are all having a good weekend. I am enjoying a little r and r. I did work today but only for a couple of hours. I was driving home from work and saw three girls riding horses on the side of the road. I thought of Elsie and how much I still can't believe she is gone. She was so independent and pretty healthy for 80 yrs old. It seemed like she would be around for another 20 years. I feel bad that I did not spend too much time with her before she got sick. I kept telling her that when I was through taking care of my mother I would spend more time with her. Then she got ill two weeks before my mother passed. Elsie would always say don't worry about me, I am only the walking wounded, your mother needs you more now. I do feel good though that I took time off work and spent as much time as I could when she was in the hospital. I held her hand and she left this world and then I kissed her goodbye and told her the Angels will carry you home now and of course cried. I finally had a dream about my mother that was like a message from God that I have been hoping to get. I want to share this dream with you. The last thing I whispered into my mother's ear before she passed was "I will see you in my dreams". In my dream I went to our childhood home in Weymouth to visit my brother Jim. When I walked in the backdoor there was my mother standing in the kitchen all recovered from her stroke. She was happy and giddy with laughter. Like she would get sometimes in the nursing home. She was cooking and singing a little. We shared the day together, laughing and having special moments. I kept saying Mom you have no Idea how good it is to be with you! She said the same to me. I could feel her hugs. Then it was getting near the end of the day, Mom said she had a class to go to. Like Ceramics or something. I was sitting at a bus stop it seemed like with her. I said goodbye to her and she did to me. We both new we would see each other again, not right away but that we would be together again. When I left her I felt happiness for getting one more day with her. God was letting me know she is free from all her suffering's here on earth. I had another chance to say goodbye for now under better conditions . I am really grateful for this dream. I will never forget it. It is true, God gives you what you need! So I decided to post this inspirational saying I found on Death and dying.
Where do we go when we die? Do we really die? If you fear death, are grieving for a loved one who has passed over, or believe in hell and punishment, perhaps you need to take a different perspective...... In reality, there is no death - only transition. So, the real question is; "How can we live our life now to make our "transition" free and clear?"
First of all.... who are we really and why are we here?
Deepak Chopra tells us:
"Human beings are made of body, mind and spirit. Of these, spirit is primary, for it connects us to the source of everything, the eternal field of consciousness."and that....
"Each of us is here to discover our true Self...that essentially we are spiritual beings who have taken manifestation in physical form...that we're not human beings that have occasional spiritual experiences that we're spiritual beings that have occasional human experiences. "...
So, knowing now that we are spirit incarnated on earth to discover our true Self through our physical form, and knowing that Spirit does not die, then we can understand that death is nothing to fear because it is then really only a transition and a 'return to home', then how we live our lives here and how we think about ourselves and our life can be liberating and empowering. If you were to die tomorrow, can you say that you lived a full life and that you impacted positively on the lives of those around you? Would there be any regrets of things left unsaid or undone?
Thanks for visiting my blog,
Take Care,
Janet :)

The Power Of One

Hi Everyone,
I hope you are all doing well. I am doing good. I feel like I haven't written in a while. I have been busy working and taking care of Elsie's affairs and spending time with scotty. I feel that I have to always spread myself out, time for this time for that. Not to complain but I wish I had some clones to do some of my stuff!!! LOL. I found this inspirational saying to share with you all. Thanks for stopping by my blog, talk to you soon, hopefully tomorrow.
Take Care,
Janet :)

The Power Of One
One song can spark a moment,
One flower can wake the dream.
One tree can start a forest,
One bird can herald spring.

One smile begins a friendship,
One handclasp lifts a soul.
One star can guide a ship at sea,
One word can frame the goal.

One vote can change a nation,
One sunbeam lights a room.
One candle wipes out darkness,
One laugh will conquer gloom.

One step must start each journey,
One word must start each prayer.
One hope will raise our spirits,
One touch can show you care.
One voice can speak with wisdom,
One heart can know what's true.
One life can make the difference,
You see, IT'S UP TO YOU!
~ Author Unknown~