Detour Doesn't Mean Delay!

Hello Everyone, I came across this article on Facebook. This article really hit home for me. As some of you know by reading my blog, I have expressed that being 47 yrs of age, I do sometimes get discouraged that I am not further along in my life with some of the goals I had set myself. Goals I wanted for myself such as being able to make a career out of my degree. I "should be" financially independent by now, I should be able to go buy myself and my kids and grand kids just about anything they need or want, this Christmas was heartbreaking for me, I couldn't afford to give like I really wanted to. "I should be" able to travel, etc. You know, "the shoulds", that eventually will drive you to almost want to give up! Most of all, if you follow me on this blog you know I have I had a detour this past year as well, with no one to blame but myself. Although I have been doing so much better with accepting what is and making the best of my situation lately, this article really gave me a new perspective on my life's journey. Maybe it is not a bad thing after all, maybe it was all meant to be (for some strange reason, very strange indeed LOL!) I probably will be better equipped with more tools to handle my goals when I do reach them. One good thing I know for sure is I will be able to get more help paying for college this year because of my recovery, and who knows if that had not happened, maybe I could not have afforded to go at all, so ya, maybe a little detour isn't such a bad thing after all:) I hope that you see that for yourself too if you find yourself in the same place as me. Keith of Straight Up Living was kind enough to let me share this with all of you. Straight Up Living is a great blog, I love what it represents, I believe in all their views about life, which I included below. I suggest you check it out for some inspiration!
Thank you for visiting my blog,
Love ya,
Janet :)


Detour Doesn't Mean Delay!

You have a plan. You know exactly what you want in life and you've mapped out the route to get you there. Everything's moving along just fine until one day you notice that you've been diverted from the direct route to your destination! Before you start freaking out, take a very close look at what's happening. It may be that this detour is the quickest way to get where you want to go. The detour may be getting you around a roadblock!

Whatever your goal or dream may be, there will be knowledge, skills and experiences you will need in order to make it a reality. When you begin your journey, you'll probably not be fully equipped with all you'll need to complete it, so you'll have to pick some things up along the way. In other words, you may have to take a little detour now and then.

Detour Doesn't Mean Distraction!

When you first hear the word "Detour" it kind of brings with it a negative feeling doesn't it? It's a feeling that you're about to be taken off course or significantly delayed. This isn't necessarily the case. When you're driving down the interstate at 70mph and you come upon a construction zone and find yourself at a complete stop in bumper to bumper traffic for as far as the eye can see, you'll be more than happy to take the detour around it, right? Why is that? Because it is the quickest way to get where you want to go!

Here's another example. Your moving on down the highway and you notice your fuel gauge is resting on the big "E". You don't want to leave the interstate because after all, you're making good time. If you don't detour off and refuel, you'll soon be setting on the side of the road making no time at all! Just as you must leave the main route to get fuel for your car, there are times in life when you must detour from your path so that you can acquire some skill, knowledge or experience that will actually get you to your goal quicker than if you had bypassed the detour.

A detour will eventually lead you right back to the main road. If you see that you are continually getting further and further away, then it may be that you followed a distraction instead of a detour!

Detour Doesn't Mean Deviation!

It's easy to view any deviation from your carefully planned route as a delay or as something that is taking you away from your dream, but that isn't necessarily the case. Keep in mind that with any journey you undertake, you won't be able to "pack" everything you'll need and you must be prepared to "pick some things up" along the way.


Straight Up Living is about living life now! What does that mean?

It means:

* to be aware of the present.

* to accept responsibility for your own life.

* to not quit.

* to boldly move forward in the face of fear.

* to not postpone happiness and peace.

* to have goals, but remembering to enjoy the journey.

* to not make excuses.

* to not wear masks, live out loud, and be the person you really are.

* to never stop learning and growing.

* to seek with an open and honest heart (and mind).

* to not be afraid to ask questions about life, and to embrace the answers.

* to love full on


  1. Excellent post. I am so glad you are moving on from your temporary hick up. We all make mistakes and you paid the price for yours. I will have to check out this other blog you mentioned.

  2. - to not quit
    - to not make excuses
    - to never stop learning and growing
    I try to keep up with those these days, and sometimes the temptations to do otherwise seem irresistible.

    Thanks for the post. Have a great weekend.

  3. Thank you Pink, ya I have moved on, the past is the past and I was watching Carrie fisher on HBO one night and she said location, location, location when it comes to events in our life, the further away from it the better for us to view it, and maybe as you said a long time ago to me, just shake our head and say what were you thinking girl LOL!
    Take Care,
    Janet :)

  4. So true C.A.T but as long as you keep trying, and you've got the right attitude, progress happens and some days that is good enough!!
    Thanks for the comment,
    Janet :)