Heal With Hurt

Hi Everyone, I hope your doing well. I am doing great. My blogger friend Maitri , (who's blog is beautiful and inspiring, please take some time to visit it!), shared this link from OM times ezine today on Facebook. It really hit home with me, because I have truly lived this by taking part in support groups. This article summed up, reminds me of the saying that "Sometimes the Less Broken have to fix the More Broken" Simple way of saying that we are all broken, in one way or another, from our own life experiences. Once we accept that we have been hurt or broken, we can choose to get stuck in it (victim role) or let it go, and grow. If we grow, we can use the hurt as a tool. A tool to truly help others with "pure and true" empathy and compassion. What better gifts are there to give to a fellow human being who is suffering? None, absoulutley none.
Thanks for visiting,
Janet :)



Using Your Pain to Help Others

You can channel your pain into helping
others and spreading a tide of curative
energy throughout the world.

Pain is a fact of being and one that permeates all of our lives to some degree. Since the hurt we feel may be a part of the experiences that have touched us most deeply, we are often loathe to let it go. It is frequently easier to keep our pain at our sides, where it acts as a shield that shelters us from others and gives us an identity—that of victim—from which we can draw bitter strength. However, pain’s universality can also empower us to use our hurt to help others heal. Since no pain is any greater or more profound than any other, what you feel can give you the ability to help bring about the recovery of individuals whose hurts are both similar to and vastly different from your own. You can channel your pain into transformative and healing love that aids you in helping individuals on a one-to-one basis and spreading a tide of curative energy throughout the world.

The capacity to heal others evolves naturally within those who are ready to disassociate themselves from their identity as victims. In fact, the simple decision to put aside the pain we have carried is what grants us the strength to redeem that pain through service. There are many ways to use the hurt you feel to help others. Your pain gives you a unique insight into the minds of people who have experienced trauma and heartache. You can draw from the wellspring of strength that allowed you to emerge on the other side of a painful experience and pass that strength to individuals still suffering from their wounds. You may be able to council individuals in need by showing them the coping methods that have helped you survive or simply by offering sympathy. A kinship can develop that allows you to relate more closely with those you are trying to aid and comfort.

Helping others can be a restorative experience that makes your own heart grow stronger. In channeling your pain into compassionate service and watching others successfully recover, you may feel a sense of euphoria that leads to increased feelings of self-worth and optimism. Your courageous decision to reach out to others can be the best way to declare to yourself and the world that your pain didn’t defeat you, and in fact it helped you heal.

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Unfoldment

Happy Tuesday my friends, I was on the OM Times website last night and I came across this article by Maria Khalifé titled Competing with Yourself. I love her perspective on Self Improvement, and/or as she calls it Self Competition. The idea that we are "born with all that we would become, intrinsically wrapped up inside of us, just waiting to be unfolded" gives me a new sense of hope for myself. That all I need to grow is already inside of me, waiting for me to be ready to tap into it. That I am where I should be, even though I don't want to be where I am at. It is inside me to achieve what I want, and I will get to where I want to be! Ya I like that idea, maybe all is not lost on a brighter future for me LOL! There are a lot of great articles on their website. I suggest you check it out if you are looking for some inspiration and help with spirituality and self-growth.
Thanks for visiting my blog,
Have a good one,
Janet :)



“The principle is competing against yourself. It’s about self-improvement, about being better than you were the day before.”
~ Steve Young

The sense of striving and competition must surely be inbred or part of our survival mechanism because each of us does it from the earliest days of our lives. I think that moderate competition is an okay idea; severe competition may not be. But what if you only compete with yourself?

What would happen, though, if you had been taught from your earliest days to only compete with yourself – your own last victory? Every single one of us wants to know inside that we are capable of achieving our next victory, that we can accomplish one more good thing if we stretch ourselves a bit. This is how we grew from our infant stage to the adult stage.

Our earlier accomplishments became the foundation upon which we grew. And interestingly enough, it’s our own sense of achievement that holds the carrot that makes us run in front of our own face. We really don’t look for others to award and applaud us. We look inward to our own dear Self to award and applaud us. We are the one who knows just how far we stretched ourselves the last time, and we are the one who knows best just what it took to stretch some more, so who best to reward us?

Many in the world would label this kind of competition “improvement.” I would call it “unfoldment.” I believe each of us was born with all that we would become intrinsically wrapped up inside of us just waiting to be unfolded. It is this infinity of possibilities that knocks on the door of our hearts and souls and says “Let’s try this!” and we are off and running. Our motivations, our stretching, are internal and individual. Your sense of what may look to others like competitiveness is simply your desire to unfold more of yourself – you only compete with yourself.

Your inner score keeper knows when and if you are capable of more, and he/she may be a very demanding voice. You alone know when it’s time to do more, to stretch more, to achieve more. You alone know what our inner vision of success is. You alone know when to exercise patience and when to strive forward again. You know when the energy level is perfect. You know that we are not here to serve the desires of anyone but ourselves, so you only compete with yourself if you want to remain balanced, satisfied and at peace.

By Maria Khalifé
http://omtimes.com/